Similarly to David, we may be tempted to minimize things or take sides in a family conflict which can lead to awkward or clumsy communication. During a conflict, it is important to take into account all perspectives in order to avoid minimizing and concealing the violence of certain comments (in this case, gender stereotypes, lesbophobia and sexism).

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While Louise may perceive Olivia’s coming out and her objections to David’s remarks as proof that her sister is a ‘fighter’, coming out is often just the tip of the iceberg in a person’s journey. They may experience a range of emotions and be faced with a number of questions and considerations before being able to disclose their orientation.

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Coming out means accepting yourself and letting go of the mental burden of secrecy. Justifying one’s identity, deconstructing stereotypes, or educating others, are all microaggressions that contribute to the daily stress experienced by LGBTQ+ individuals.

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In a heteronormative society that assumes heterosexuality, being there for someone when they come out means listening and holding space for that person to express themselves openly.

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Don't invalidate their experiences and emotions. It is important not to project your expectations onto them and to do your own research. Last but not least, as an ally, you can identify and condemn any aggressions.