Although being concerned about the way you are perceived is valid, if it becomes a constant worry, it may be problematic.

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In the story ‘Party time!’, Louise's anxiety causes her to feel like she doesn’t meet people’s expectations and that they perceive her negatively. In this case, we can see that her anxiety also causes her to negatively interpret positive interpersonal interactions.

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Olivia wants to support her, but Louise still feels misunderstood and alone. She may choose to avoid seeing her sister in order to avoid this uncomfortable situation. However, overcoming the discomfort created by this type of conversation could help Louise to identify and welcome her sister’s support.

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Becoming less concerned with your image doesn’t happen overnight. If you focus solely on your words, your actions, or your behaviour, you will be more likely to judge yourself and this can become a source of anxiety. By focusing your attention on others, you pull that constant focus away from yourself. Be kind to yourself and do it at your own pace.